Nida Yasir's stance on sons' negative attitude after marriage deserves acknowledgement!
Popular Pakistani television morning show host Nida Yasir celebrated Mother’s Day on her show recently. Mahnoor Pervaiz and Ahmed Randhawa were guests alongside their mothers.
During the guest interviews, a caller tunes in to the show where the lady starts to tell her journey of her relationship with her son. The lady Fatima shares her journey from the brought up of her sons to their changing attitudes after getting married.
She reveals how she is in so much pain because of the equation with her eldest son, who doesn’t bother to meet or show his face.
She continues about the situations in a heartbreaking manner: “Mere dil main ik bohat bara dard hai, jo main kisi se bi nai kehti hun, aksar hi huta hai kay koi maa apni aulad kay baray main kuch kahay, main abi dekh rahai thi jo ap bachon kay baray main keh rahay thay, mere bhi Masha Allah se teen betay hain, bachay asla main buray nai hutay, unko halat bana deta hain, pata nai konsay raste pe le jatay hain aur unka mind change kr dete hain.
Aur kab aesa huta hai ye bhi pata nai chalta, tu koi bhi ma apnay bacahy ki parwarish galat nai krti.
Mera jo sab se bara beta hai uski shaadi ko do saal hugay hain, aur jo mere bahu thi wo rich family se thi tu adjust nai hu pai, tu mera beta alag hugaya tha."
She further stated: "Mene Khushi Khushi bete ki shaadi ki thi jaise har koi krta hai, mein apnay beta kay liye socha tha apni pasand ki bahu laon gi lekin mene apnay bete ki khushi mein khush huna sai laga.
Khair wo alag huagya mene bhi kuch nai kaha janay diya, ab 2 saal hugay hain separation ko Nida ap yaqeen nai krain gi mera yehi beta raat ko sonay se pehle mere 30 mint paon dubata tha aur subha janay se pehle dam krwata tha, kehta tha mama ye ap doodh pian warna kamzoor hujain gi aur ab do ssal hu gain mujhe wo apni shakal nai dikhata, abhi mere bahu pregneant hai, pehli uski beti hai, pehle main apnay bete se mehroom hui ab kiya main apni aulad ki aulad ko bhi dekhne se mehroom hun gi.
Main ik teacher hun mene apnay bachay bari mehnat se palain hain, tution de kr, lekin jab bachay ma ko chor dete hain tu maa se dukh bardasht nai huta.”
Nida Yasir responded with how almost every mother is suffering like this, sons are responsible for this equation who do not know how to balance and when will sons learn to keep a balance between a mother and wife, she quotes: “Ap jaise bohat si maein hain jo ye dukh bardasht krti hain, pata nai aisa kiyun huta hai, pata nai bachay balance rakh nai patay, asal main larkay ka kam huta hai kay usko dono kay beach balance rakhna parta hai, larkon ko ye ata bhi nai nahi rakhna nai nai cheeza unka upper ajati hai, koi technique tu hugi na.
Mene Kahin parh rahi thi, ma bap aulad ka bhala chahtay hain, tu isliye raye dete hain ka phopho ki bete se kr lo, yehan kr lo, takay samaj jaye gi.”
The guest interpreted by saying: "No matter who you bring they will change and to make things better with daughter-in-law, first look, understand, give space, do not burden her with responsibilities instantly after her arrival in your house and also do not interfere in her life with her husband.
Secondly, your son is the same, he has not changed, even after you get him married, you should continue to feed your son breakfast with taking care of his other stuff.
Lastly the respect should be given from both sides for better relationship.
In every other Pakistani household these problems exist that sometimes mother-in-law is the problem and other times daughter-in-law.
But if we dig deeper the problem is also with the man. Society mostly blames women for these things and because she is an easy target to go with because of her patience and not reacting instantly to anything, but if she does, she becomes the villain.
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Overall, the message was conveyed by the guest accurately. It is responsibility of both parties to give and earn respect by understanding, giving space and tolerating things with patience.
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