‘We never taught men to express emotions’, Mathira says
Pakistani model and television host Mathira has ignited a heated conversation on social media after speaking candidly about the challenge’s men face in society.
During a latest podcast appearance, the outspoken star argued that men are often denied the space to express their emotions and are burdened with unrealistic expectations, leaving many silently battling mental and emotional struggles.
Reflecting on gender dynamics, Mathira claimed that society often rushes to judge men without hearing their side of the story.
She explained that if a woman publicly accuses a man of inappropriate behavior, people are quick to react without first verifying the facts. According to Mathira, such situations can lead to men being unfairly condemned before the truth comes to light.
The actress further argued that society has turned men into "machines" by placing endless responsibilities on their shoulders while discouraging them from expressing vulnerability.
"We keep burdening them with responsibilities," she said, adding that the constant pressure to provide and remain emotionally strong can prevent men from becoming the fathers, husbands, sons, or brothers they aspire to be.
Mathira also highlighted the importance of emotional awareness, questioning whether society ever teaches boys that it is safe to express their feelings.
She noted that many men struggle with depression but often suppress their emotions because they fear being judged for appearing weak. According to her, men rarely feel comfortable telling their friends that they are emotionally hurting, leaving many to suffer in silence.
Her remarks quickly gained traction online, with many users agreeing that men's mental health deserves greater attention.
One social media user commented, "She is actually right. Society never allowed men to cry openly and kept telling them to be strong. Many men forget how to express sadness or ask for help, and bottling up emotions only leads to stress, anger, and loneliness."
Another wrote, "We were never sensitive while raising our boys or encouraged them to express emotions, yet we expect them to understand ours. She has a valid point."
However, not everyone agreed with Mathira's perspective. Some critics accused her of seeking male validation, with one user writing, "She was always insulted by men, so she's desperate to seek their attention. Pick-me woman." Another simply described her remarks as "pick-me behaviour."